Common Mistakes to Avoid During a Divorce

by Abigail Richards

Divorce is a life-changing event that can bring emotional and financial challenges. At Richards Family Law, we’ve seen how avoidable mistakes can complicate the process and negatively impact outcomes. Here are some of the most common mistakes people make during a divorce—and how you can avoid them.

1. Letting Emotions Dictate Decisions

Divorce is emotional, but allowing anger, sadness, or resentment to guide your decisions can lead to outcomes that you might regret later.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Focus on long-term goals rather than short-term revenge or emotional satisfaction.

  • Work with an attorney who can provide objective advice and keep your interests in mind.

2. Overlooking Financial Details

Failing to fully understand your financial situation can result in unfair settlements or future financial instability.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Gather all financial documents, including bank statements, tax returns, and retirement accounts.

  • Understand the value of marital assets and debts.

  • Consider consulting a financial advisor to help with budgeting and planning for post-divorce life.

3. Refusing to Negotiate or Compromise

Digging in your heels and refusing to negotiate can lead to prolonged court battles, increased expenses, and unnecessary stress.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Be open to mediation or collaborative divorce to reach mutually beneficial agreements.

  • Identify your priorities and focus on what truly matters, rather than fighting over every detail.

4. Using Children as Leverage

Involving children in the conflict or using them as leverage against your spouse can harm their emotional well-being and affect custody decisions.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Shield your children from divorce-related disputes.

  • Focus on creating a parenting plan that prioritizes their best interests.

  • Avoid speaking negatively about the other parent in front of your children.

5. Ignoring Legal Advice

Trying to handle your divorce without professional guidance or disregarding your attorney’s advice can lead to costly mistakes.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Hire an experienced family law attorney who can guide you through the process and protect your rights.

  • Trust their expertise, especially when emotions are high or legal complexities arise.

6. Rushing Through the Process

While it’s natural to want to finalize your divorce quickly, rushing can result in poorly thought-out agreements that don’t serve your long-term interests.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Take the time to review all agreements carefully.

  • Consider the long-term impact of decisions, especially regarding finances and parenting plans.

7. Posting on Social Media

Social media posts can be used as evidence during a divorce, especially if they contradict claims or portray you in a negative light.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Refrain from posting about your divorce, your spouse, or your personal life during the process.

  • Avoid sharing photos or comments that could be misinterpreted or used against you in court.

8. Forgetting to Update Legal Documents

Divorce doesn’t automatically update important legal documents like wills, insurance policies, or beneficiary designations.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Review and update your estate plan, insurance policies, and retirement accounts as needed.

  • Consult with your attorney to ensure all documents reflect your new circumstances.

9. Underestimating the Importance of a Parenting Plan

If you have children, failing to create a detailed and realistic parenting plan can lead to conflicts down the road.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Work with your spouse (or through mediation) to create a parenting plan that addresses custody, visitation, holidays, and decision-making responsibilities.

10. Failing to Plan for the Future

Divorce often shifts financial and lifestyle dynamics, and failing to plan for your post-divorce future can leave you unprepared.

Avoid This Mistake:

  • Create a realistic budget for life after divorce.

  • Consider how the division of assets and debts will impact your financial stability.

  • Seek professional advice to ensure your settlement supports your long-term goals.

How Richards Family Law Can Help

At Richards Family Law, we’re committed to helping clients avoid common pitfalls during their divorce. Our experienced team provides:

  • Personalized legal strategies tailored to your needs.

  • Guidance on financial planning, custody arrangements, and more.

  • Support and advocacy to help you achieve the best possible outcome.

Take the First Step Toward a Better Future

Divorce doesn’t have to be a minefield of mistakes. With the right guidance, you can navigate the process with confidence and clarity. Contact Richards Family Law today to schedule a consultation.

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